kagablog

virtually every queen i have ever met (with very few exceptions)
has been utterly stereotyped and conservative
insistent on behaving with clearly defined mannerisms and euphemisms
terrified of ‘how to do the right thing’
as much as they think they are getting/want to get out of the box
they slide right into it
it is THIS that I find ‘unnatural’
not what they wear or do with their dicks etc.
like the feminists (or lumberjacks for that matter!) they feel they have to ‘uphold’ some unnamed identity
and I no longer hold any interest in these issues
as they have revealed themselves to be very ordinary
the subject therefore becomes tedious in the sense that ‘queerdom’ seems
to be more a rite of passage if it is to make any sense.
for those for whom this is an end in itself they have sadly painted themselves into a corner. so good luck to them….

and then of course we have ordinary homosexuals who seem to think they are terribly interesting because they are gay

not only that

this also seems to mean they are cultured, artistic, intelligent, etc…..

again just plain boring..

i say all this of course not to undermine some serious psychological issues facing gay people
but to try an expose what
by and large has become a very very static way of life…..

sadly many parents and teachers would rather have children being homophobic
than dealing with sexual identity issues
and in durban in particular this becomes a rampant closet issue
some women here are slowly beginning to realise that they are being used as a cover
by their boyfriends….

but

this does not detract from the fact that homosexuality generally is still very misunderstood/feared…..
there is still so much undercurrent of abuse by our largely chauvinist society
and people still need to grasp that homosexuality, like heterosexuality is an

EMOTIONAL issue

not a SEXUAL issue although of course one aspect of emotion is to express itself sexually

and this is a basic human need - if not a right!

but i have always found the need for a sex change to be a sad inability to cope with one’s physical being and in many instances a sex change (male to female) represents a complete negation of masculinity - removal of penis and testicles. i have immense difficulty with the notion of a female being born in a man’s body….and this is a vexing psychological issue for which i do not have any answers….but it is interesting to note that many sex changes end up lesbian… the rejection of the penis is complete!!!

and i find many of these issues overridden with its own form of chauvinism

but the underlying obsession with chauvinism confounds the need to relate laterally, equally

non abusively!!

and how many relationships end up in abuse?

I have also often found that these issues are MAGNIFIED by queens in some bizarre way

the general public do that rocky horror thing here as well,

it has become truly embedded in the everyday

which underlines (possibly) the recurring need to explore sexuality?

exploring sexuality as i see it is a healthy dynamic that allows one to step outside of sexual identity crisis syndrome (SICS)

and attempt to relate beyond the borders of the everyday…

this of course is not for everyone….

and the beguiling rocky horror picture show seems to give people

permission